Knowing “why” someone engages in a behavior is often helpful. At first, you might not have left your home because of habit. Your habitual behavior might have evolved into a phobia. Fear seems to be the root of your problem.
You mentioned your living in a dangerous country, as one reason for not leaving your home but this may be a rationalization. The vast majority of people who live in Brazil are aware of the crime problems, but they still leave their homes. If it’s safe enough for them to leave their homes, then it’s safe enough for you. It is always safer to stay at home, but much of the good that life has to offer lies outside your door. Playing it too safe, means one is not really living and I think you have described the quality of your life as being exactly that way.
You’re frightened of going outside of your comfort zone. You avoid doing things that make you feel uncomfortable. These are common experiences among people with anxiety disorders, particularly those with phobias.
When you think about leaving your home and become frightened and then decide against leaving, you have given into your fear. Each time that happens, your fear is being reinforced and strengthened. Your fear has probably grown stronger over time because it’s being reinforced. That will continue to happen unless you address this problem.
You could eradicate your fear by engaging in the very things that frighten you the most. In your case, that would be leaving your home even when you’re frightened, uncomfortable and don’t want to do it. I don’t suggest you try that without the assistance of a mental health professional.
Counseling is the ideal solution to this problem. You’ve tried several therapists but you should keep trying until you find one who can help you. Choose a therapist who specializes in avoidance behaviors and phobias. There are therapeutic solutions to this problem and it’s very curable. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle