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I Am Desperate

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I have been feeling horrible lately. I used to feel sad or anxious before. However, now I don’t know what I’m feeling. I don’t know if this will ever stop. I try to express myself but always do it wrong. Whatever I do, punching walls, trying to cry or being nice with people, is pointless, because I always feel miserable, ridiculous and weak.

I have been thinking about suicide but I don’t really want to kill myself, because I feel so bad about it. I think there is no reason to keep living, but I just feel something absolutely horrible when thinking about suicide, or anything else, really. I feel like I will be selfish and criticized if I commit it.

I just wish I never existed. Everything feels horrible. Please, give me some type of explanation, I hate this.

I am sorry, but I just cannot explain this. The whole letter is very inaccurate.

I am receiving psychological therapy currently, but it’s useless, maybe because I don’t talk to my therapist about these kind of moments in my life.

I Am Desperate

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The best place to begin is discussing this with your therapist. These thoughts and feelings are the very stuff of therapy — and talking about them with a therapist is the right thing to do.

You have shown a great amount of courage by sending us this email. Now I would take the next step and talk about this with your therapist. If you have difficulty talking about it, you can show the therapist the email you’ve sent and this response. This can start the discussion between the two of you.

Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I Am Desperate

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Am Desperate. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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