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I Can’t Express Myself

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I have always had this problem but never thought it was a real issue. I physically cannot express my emotions to anyone. I have the best friends anyone could ask for and a big family who all love each other very much and whom I know will always be there for me no matter what. Which is why I’m so confused, I don’t know how to bring up my feelings in conversations, I feel awkward and my mind goes blank, when asked personal questions I reply with one word answers, usually yes, I’m fine. The words just won’t come out my mouth. I feel like I want to tell people but I don’t want people to know at the same time. I feel like I want my friends to already know how I’m feeling without me telling them. I can’t even tell people that I can’t tell them anything. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do? (From the UK)

I Can’t Express Myself

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 Speaking up, particularly about your feelings, is a skill that can be developed. I’d recommend Toastmasters or an introductory acting class. While I realize you’ll need courage to do these things, the classes themselves will help you develop the skills necessary.

I Can’t Express Myself

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Can’t Express Myself. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 26, 2019, from
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