From a teen in the U.S.: So to begin, I’ve been diagnosed and recieved treatment for depression and an eating disorder, seen 2 therapists, and struggled with self-harm in the past 3 years. Lately I’ve noticed a few behaviors that are bit strange to me. Here’s a list of the behaviors that are concerning me: – I excessive clean my room – When I’m the only one home, I organize the pantry, clean and straighten up the countertops, and try to put everything in order – When I babysit, after the kids have gone to bed, I wipe down all the counter and table tops, straighten paperwork/books and put them in the upper corners of the table, straighten the TV remotes so they are perpendicular to the TV, and put all dishes in the sink – I used to bring all my horse equipment home every weekend to clean it (I don’t ride anymore so this isn’t happening anymore) – I regularly go through all my school work and try to organize it based on class and date – I’m picking at my skin a lot. I pick at my chapped lips for hours at a time, as well as ripping open the skin around my fingernails, and picking off all scabs multiple times – I have very limited personal relationships with people and struggle to make friends – I had 2 childhood friends that I kept for a long time (one for 8 years, one for 10 years) the 8 year friendship ended recently and I really don’t feel like I miss her – When my family goes out of town for long periods of time I don’t really miss them but when they call I tell them I miss them because I feel rude if I say that I don’t – I hardly spend time with my friend (the 10 year friendship I mentioned) I see her maybe once every couple months – I feel as though if I cut everyone out of my life I wouldn’t really miss anyone – I lie a lot and am extremely secretive
I’m not sure if these are things I should be concerned about but I just don’t feel like they are normal. I am not seeking a diagnosis, but rather a recommendation as to what these sound most similar to so that I may seek help from someone to give me an official diagnosis.
I very much appreciate that you understand that I can’t give you a diagnosis. I can’t. But I can tell you that everything you describe is within the scope of the anxiety disorders. The good news is that it is treatable.
I suggest you follow through with your own good idea and find a therapist who specializes in anxiety and teens.
You might also find it helpful to take a look at The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund Bourne.
I wish you well. Dr. Marie
I Don’t Know What Is Wrong with Me
Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker
Dr. Marie is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. Follow her on Facebook or Twitter.
APA Reference Hartwell-Walker, D. (2018). I Don’t Know What Is Wrong with Me. Psych Central.
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