From the U.S.: I am a single mother of a three year old having some trouble with my ex-fiance and the father of my child.
I left my ex-fiance two years ago after I came home from work to find my child starving and my ex passed out because he was drunk. My daughter hasn’t been fed all day long, and how I could tell is because all of the breast milk left for her was still in bottles in the same spots I left them in the refrigerator. My ex lied to me, saying he fed her an apple which we did not have in the house.
Needles to say he was gone the next day out of our house. I told him to get his life together and seek help for his alcoholism if he wanted his family back. Instead he got an apartment, a girlfriend, and drank even more, flaked out on his days to watch her (which were only a few hours at a time since I didn’t trust him), not to mention steal money from and claim he accidentally took it out of our conjoined bank account.
Fast forward two years he keeps trying to act like he is a father and demands my daughter to spend the night with him because he wants things fair. He pays no child support, does not do anything for our daughter or try to help support her in anyway. He claims he wasn’t ready to be a father before and that I should forget and move on.
I don’t know if I am doing the right thing by keeping her away from him or if it’s just me reflecting my resentment and anger at him for putting our daughter in danger multiple times. When my daughter requests him then I facetime him or set up a day to bring her to him but other than that I don’t want her to be in contact with him until she is old enough to decide if she wants a relationship with him or not.
He is a master manipulator and has a way of getting under my skin and guilting me into doing things for him.
I just don’t know what to do anymore.