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I Think I’m a Sociopath & that Kind of Makes Me Happy

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I’m a sixteen year old male, and I think I might be a sociopath. For the longest time, I’ve really started to take pride in things that most people would feel guilty for. I’m a very good liar and I tend to boast about it. I often lie quite frequently as well. Sometimes I do it just out of sheer convenience, and I’ve become so good at it that I can convince myself that I’m telling the truth. I tend to take pride in my different view of the world. I often find myself contradicting the common conception, and I make valid points when I do. I take very complex steps at getting things I want, and I’ve always been proud of my status as an outcast. I’ve never wanted to be normal, and I feel that if I found out that I was a sociopath, I’d take pride in it. People always like me though, I’m not a danger to them. I’m very good at making myself appear very wise and insightful. I don’t learn from punishment well. When ever my parents punish me, I don’t stop doing what I did. I simply find sneakier ways of doing it. My mother often tells me that it’s what I do when people aren’t around that determines who I am, but I disagree with that. I think society determines the kind of person you are. It’s not what you do that decides your personality, it’s how the rest of the world sees you. Please respond soon, this question has been on my mind for a long time.

I Think I’m a Sociopath & that Kind of Makes Me Happy

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I’m not sure what you are asking. It seems as though you are asking whether or not you are sociopath. Compulsive lying is a trait associated with sociopathy but there are others as well. You mentioned having a “different view of the world” but did not elaborate about what you meant. I would need more information about your potential symptoms to determine if “sociopath” is an appropriate characterization of your behavior.

For instance, you described yourself as an outcast. The term outcast is relative and what it means depends on how you define it. You also mentioned never wanting to be “normal.” Normal is also a relative term that requires a definition. To be able to answer your questions, I would need to know how you define those aforementioned terms.

You described yourself as never learning from punishment, but maybe that is because the punishment was ineffective. In other words, it may not have been the appropriate punishment for your behavior. Again, I would need more information about your use of certain terms to know if sociopathy is a problem.

Your ideas about society determining an individual’s personality are not necessarily consistent with research. The society and culture in which one lives impacts how an individual views themselves and to some extent shapes their behavior but personality is thought, by some scientists, to be present at birth.

Developmentally, how an individual thinks about themselves is determined by how they think people in society view them (known as the looking glass self theory) but at some point, an individual’s sense of identity should be self-determined. Abraham Maslow refers to this stage of human development as self-actualization. Self-actualizing people are no longer reliant upon the opinions of others when constructing their identities. Their identities are entirely self-determined. You might want to read more about self-actualization and Abraham Maslow to understand the nature of healthy psychological growth and development.

The bottom line is this: it’s not desirable to lie or to want to be a sociopath. Sociopaths are not good people. They are not the kind of people that anyone should aspire to be like. If you continue to struggle with these issues, consult mental health professionals. They can determine if sociopathy is a problem for you and if so, design a treatment plan to positively alter your course in life. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

I Think I’m a Sociopath & that Kind of Makes Me Happy

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). I Think I’m a Sociopath & that Kind of Makes Me Happy. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 5, 2020, from
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