You know the pain in your life. When you look at the world around you and the people that make it up, real people, people in television shows, people in the movies, it may seem that they have little pain and few problems. It may seem that their life is all positive and they are easily achieving their goals in life. The difference between them and you is that you have full access to your very real pain and no access, whatsoever, to their internal pain — the pain that they hide from the world.
The truth is that life is hard and you can expect it to be a struggle. Look at all of the people, people who seem to have it all, rich and admired, famous and respected, who have committed suicide. From the outside, it seems as if they have achieved the ideal life, money, fame and success. It seems like that because we can’t see what exists inside their external façade.
What are you comparing yourself to? Are you comparing yourself to the real person, who exists inside the external façade or are you comparing yourself to the external carefully crafted image?
Movies and television shows do not represent reality. Those cool, competent, successful people are fictional characters created by writers to provide entertainment and profit for the sponsors of their products. Those characters do not accurately represent life.
Life isn’t easy, but it is a blessing from God. If you deny the existence of God, at least we can agree that life is of immense value. You can find meaning and happiness in this world and you should. If you continue to try, you will. When something doesn’t work out for you in life or in other words when you fail at something, what does it mean?
Here’s what it means. It means “nope, not that way.” Your failure is actually success in narrowing down the things that don’t work, i.e. the wrong ways. When a baby is learning to walk it falls down, it may cry or maybe not but it always gets back up. It will fall, again and again but eventually it will succeed. The baby doesn’t know how to walk and it’s finding out how not to and with every fall, it is moving closer to success.
People aren’t born knowing how to be happy in life or to find their personal meaningfulness. Each path is different. There is no “normal.” There is no map to happiness for anyone. You must create that map and you will create it by using logic, good judgment and through experimentation. When you try something, after using your best judgment and reasoning, and you fail, what does that mean? It means “nope, not that way.” Take a lesson from the purity of the baby’s soul — cry a little if you must but get back up and keep trying. They eventually succeed and so will you.
Dr. Kristina Randle