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Same-Sex Attraction & My Marriage

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Hello, I would like to know that is it normal to have sexual attraction to women while I am female and I am in relationship with men?
in other words, having strong feeling to a girl and imagination to having sex with her consider abnormal attraction? Do I need to ignore this attraction and still be in relationship with my man? Am I successful in marriage with him?

Same-Sex Attraction & My Marriage

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It’s not abnormal in the American culture to have sexual attraction to both sexes, but it might be different in your culture. A recent survey, conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, found that 5.5% of women regarded themselves as bisexual.

Even if people are attracted to members of the same sex, it doesn’t mean that they will engage in same-sex contact. If your attraction is overwhelming, then it may interfere with your marriage. The main question would be: is it impacting your marriage? If the answer is no, then it’s not likely going to be a problem. If you have additional questions, please don’t hesitate to write again. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

Same-Sex Attraction & My Marriage

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). Same-Sex Attraction & My Marriage. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 24, 2019, from
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