Cutting yourself, for any reason, is self-destruction. There is nothing good or healthy about self-destruction. It’s a sign of a person who is dissatisfied, emotionally troubled or suffering. Happy and emotionally stable people don’t engage in self-harm. It never crosses their minds.
To one degree or another, pain and emotional suffering are part of everyone’s life. It’s important to develop the skill set necessary to deal with these painful emotions when they arise. Some people are fortunate and have people in their lives to teach them these coping skills. Not everyone has caring mentors who can teach them the skills that they need. It is generally believed that people resort to self-destructive behavior when they lack healthy coping skills. If you knew better ways to relieve your pain, you would probably utilize those ways. The good news is that you can learn those skills in counseling.
The best remedy for your problem is counseling. It’s important that you ask your parents for their assistance in consulting a mental health professional. You mentioned your reluctance to speak to your parents.
Your parents may not understand, but that’s okay. It’s not necessarily their job to understand your cutting behavior but it is their job is to consult a professional who does understand and who can help you learn new and better coping skills. Mental health professionals can help both you and your parents solve this problem.
In the meantime, you should avoid blood and gory images or videos on the Internet. It only reinforces your behavior. I hope that you will take my advice and speak to your parents about counseling. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle