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I’m Not in My Body

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When I was 15, after a suicide attempt, I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I’m 20 now and after another suicide attempt, they diagnosed me with bipolar. I’m confused. I rarely have any symptoms of bipolar. All of my symptoms and signs point to BPD. For instance, my husband and I lost our jobs and anytime I come into contact with money, I blow it. I can’t stop flirting with other people either. And sometimes I check out of my body. I don’t remember what I do. That’s really been scaring me lately. I checked so far out I wasn’t recognizing anything. I feel like a passenger rather than the driver. My temper has been getting shorter. I feel very trapped and I’m panicking. I don’t know what to do.

I’m Not in My Body

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I can appreciate that different diagnoses can be confusing and unsettling. The only reason a diagnosis is ever helpful is if it leads to a way of understanding symptoms, which then leads to a way of understanding and treating the symptoms. I wouldn’t get too hung up on the label. I’d focus more on what opportunities for healing may come from looking at your pain through that lens. The diagnosis is only important if it helps. I would ask what the medical and psychological treatments are and see if they make sense to try.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’m Not in My Body

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I’m Not in My Body. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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