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My Life Is Finally Moved Forward, So Why Am I More Down Than I’ve Been in Years?

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I have come a long way since 2008 when I had a complete mental health breakdown. I have finally gotten control over my action. I am winning my daily battle more almost all the time, or I was. I lost everything in 2008 including the ability to control my actions, for years my emotions ran everything. I didn’t want to hurt anyone. I hate taking medication but I was begging for anything that might help, only to be told I would be on so many pills I wouldn’t know whether I was coming or going. So I closed myself away from the world for fear I would react to anything in a negative way. I wanted to give up, but couldn’t. I tried everything available to me in town and in cities I knew well so would not put any more stress on myself then I had already by forcing myself to go to theses places. That went on for years I would force myself to leave my home go to wherever my new hope for help was but nothing worked. I left my home less and less scared of what I might do. T
hen 3 and a half years ago something changed. I was starting win more and more. I had no help no support but the strength that I lost in 2008 was coming back. I struggled yeah but I was doing it. My life was getting better. Soon I felt strong enough to work. However I was turned down every single time. I was still winning my battle for control over my actions and thoughts but I did give up hope of having a job and moving out of a town that is for me toxic.

18 months ago every thing changed I met someone. I met a man who is building a business from scratch and is taking a chance on me. He knows the truth about my difficulties and for the last 10months he has been pushing me to keep moving forward. Days I’d try hide he’ll come round my home talk me up. For 3month I’m working and winning my battle for control 99.9%. My life is amazing. So why for 2week are suddenly I so down that I cry myself to sleep almost every night. Or will break down crying during the day. Luckily my boss he is ok with it. But why?

My Life Is Finally Moved Forward, So Why Am I More Down Than I’ve Been in Years?

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 Thanks for your letter. Sometimes when we transition to a life that we have been yearning for we can feel disoriented because we have spent so much time in the struggle that the achievement throws us off. If you have been constantly grappling with the work of getting better then the norm for you is to be in a fight for improvement. To reach a point where you are not having this struggle demands a recalibration.

Give yourself time to get used to a life with less battle. I’d highly recommend reviewing your gratitude for specific events in your daily life a few times a week. This can help you settle in to your new situation.

A: Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

My Life Is Finally Moved Forward, So Why Am I More Down Than I’ve Been in Years?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). My Life Is Finally Moved Forward, So Why Am I More Down Than I’ve Been in Years?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 26, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2016/07/24/my-life-is-finally-moved-forward-so-why-am-i-more-down-than-ive-been-in-years/
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