Why is it that my family brings out my worst self? All this bunch has done is treat me with pity, contempt and display their disappointment in me…maybe bc they know the “real” me and I’ve got everyone else fooled. I can never show a good mood around them bc as sure as I do they’ll bring me crashing down. Also, this all happens in the context of a family business (no, I don’t recommend joining a family business unless you have a somewhat functional relationship with your family; as for me I’ve been treated like I’ve been stealing. FYI…boundaries were never an option; you’d have to respect the person first.My Best and Worst Self
My Best and Worst Self
Thank you for your email. The normal process of development is for families to foster individuation for the children. As you state your age as 53 and immersed in a family business, this process may not be fully completed.
To individuate means that you become more self-reliant. What your family may have done for you as a young person to help you grow may be limiting you now.
I don’t believe the shift has to be overnight, but you need to be working on greater independence, more autonomy, and better self care. Moving toward greater independence will help to alleviate these feelings.