It would help if you could speak to a counselor. He or she could help you understand why you feel the way you do, but most importantly how to work through these feelings. Feelings happen to us; you can’t control them but you can control how you respond to them. You don’t always have to “give in” to your feelings. Just because you feel a particular way doesn’t mean your feelings are accurate.
I would recommend speaking to your parents about seeing a counselor. Hopefully, they’re willing to assist you in seeking help. If you’re planning to see a counselor, start a journal to record your day-to-day feelings. It could assist both you and your counselor to identify problematic patterns in your thinking.
Are there friends with whom you can speak when you’re feeling bad? What about certain family members? Having a strong social support network can help you during difficult times. You might also try self-help workbooks. Try your local library. Some of the best self-help workbooks are written by David Burns.
I would also recommend speaking to your school guidance counselor about these problems. He or she can provide you with immediate assistance and speak to your parents about seeing a counselor. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle