You are in a difficult situation and it will only get worse if you continue trying to please your girlfriend, your parents and yourself. It may be impossible to make all of you equally happy, so you will need to prioritize. What is most important to you?
It can be hard for parents to support their children’s goals when they have concerns about the feasibility of them. I’m sure they want you to have a stable and successful future. Your girlfriend just wants to be with you and not fear that your schooling or career will take you away. You just want to pursue your hopes and dreams.
You are still young enough that it’s not a bad idea to listen to the advice others have for you, such as parents, teachers, college advisors and mentors. But, at the end of the day, you have to pursue your own path and learn your own lessons. Most artists find a way to have a job that pays the bills while pursuing their creative activities. The job does not have to be perfect or define you. It just needs to generate income. If you want those closest to you to respect your choices, then show them that you are serious and determined to make it work. Dreaming is one thing, action is another.
All the best,
Dr. Holly Counts