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This Boy Is Obsessed with Me

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From New Zealand: There’s this boy I met only last year like in December? We had a thing but that was it I had no further feelings for him but that didn’t stop him from stalking me and telling everyone that we go out. It may not sound like a big issue but to me it is. Its gotten to the point where he would call me on different phone numbers which I’ve blocked but somehow he finds a way to get in contact with me still. I’m scared to report this and I hope that this can stay anonymous until something major actually happens. Which I don’t think he is capable of doing but is so then ill make the call. He’s also been telling my close boy mates bad things about me which I don’t like and is making me lose contact with them, like I knew them way before he ever did and they were the only people I could actually trust and now that he’s taken my friends away from me I don’t know who else I can talk to beside this website. This is the first time I’ve done this so if I don’t get a reply I understand but this boy is still obsessed with me and I’m sick of it he’s creepy and a weirdo. I’ve tried talking to him but he just won’t listen to me or anything I say to him. I’m also scared to tell my parents because I don’t want them to worry much, because then they might go to my school and then it’ll become a big issue which I don’t want. Please reply to this. Thank you.

This Boy Is Obsessed with Me

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 The profile of a boy who is doing this to you suggests that he won’t give up until he is challenged directly. You have done all you could and the fact that he won’t stop and is finding ways to disrespect you means you need help from adults. If it is happening in school I recommend telling the counselor or a trusted teacher. You have done everything right and the fact that he is talking about you and not respecting your boundaries means it is time to act. Research on bullying supports this. Don’t keep trying to manage this yourself. The time for that strategy has come and gone.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

This Boy Is Obsessed with Me

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). This Boy Is Obsessed with Me. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 24, 2020, from
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