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I have been feeling a bit out of the loop lately. I constantly feel under a lot of pressure, and I don’t know how to cope properly. I ashamed to say that I have used “improper” ways of coping. I “coped” by relapsing (cutting), which I felt uncomfortable after a day or two because I hadn’t cut in a while. I “coped” by ignoring important and difficult tasks needed to be done and right after not doing it, I felt even more stressed but didn’t make any move to do anything about it.

I am quick to anger and tend to cry during it. It makes me feel very frustrated which leads to even more crying.

I have never gotten professional help. My parents are very close-minded. Maybe this is nothing and there’s nothing wrong with me, maybe it’s all psychosomatic. But it just frustrates me so much because it’s gotten to a point wherein it messes with my personal life. (From Qatar)

I Need Advice on What to Do

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 Thank you for reaching out to us at PsychCentral. The fact that you are cutting, crying, feeling bad, and believe this is affecting your personal life means that it is time to do something. Writing us is a good first step. Now it is time to get some professional help. Honor the discomfort you are feeling and find a way to get your parents involved. At 14 the easiest way may simply be to tell them that you are not feeling well and would like to go to see a physician. Then tell the physician what you have been doing and how you have been feeling. He or she will be able to help more specifically.

It takes courage to cope with pressure, and a professional can help you learn the best ways to do this.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I Need Advice on What to Do

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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