It’s important to ask yourself this question: What is your motivation for wanting to report her? Is it revenge? I think that is a distinct possibility. You might be angry about her infidelity and abuse, and this is your way of paying her back.
She was just as unethical before you caught her cheating and before you married her, but now you want to report her. You didn’t turn her in before you caught her cheating, but now you want to. It was just as right to turn her in before you caught her being unfaithful as it is right now. Turning her in should have nothing to do with her infidelity. If you do turn her in, it should be for the good of the social work profession and not as a punishment for her infidelity.
You asked the question “should I report her or just get on with my life?” There is not an easy answer to your question. It is not that simple. This is a complicated matter involving your marriage, your life and your well-being. The most important question is your marriage. Should it be saved? Can it be saved? Counseling can help you greatly, to answer these questions. Congratulations on your sobriety and I wish you the best of luck. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle