A: I’m sorry that you are hurting so much about the situation, and even though you won’t ever forget the special time that you had with this friend, you do need to find a way to move on. You describe it as the perfect relationship, but it was flawed from the beginning because he was not really available and the relationship was a secret. Rarely do these turn out well.
He has made his choice. He may love you, but he wants to stay with his girlfriend. There is nothing you can do about that at this point. I would suggest that you take some time to heal and limit contact with him, even as a friend, so you can move on, reconnect with yourself and give yourself the chance to find someone else. The first time we fall in love with someone is always special and you can keep the memories forever. However, that does not mean that it is necessarily the person you are meant to be with forever.
All the best,
Dr. Holly Counts