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I Am Afraid of Myself and What Might Happen in the Future

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Whenever I walk outside or am in any public place, I can’t help but feel as though everyone standing around me is out to get me, I feel as though the only safe place for me to be in is my home and have been less involved in things that used to make me happy such as judo and hanging out with my friends. However, if i do happen to be with a friend I am immediately not scared anymore. When I am alone at home, I often feel as though I see things such as people or animals and then turn back to realize that nothing is there or it is just an object folded in a weird fashion. Whenever I see these things my mind seems to flash on certain objects, spaces or thoughts and I begin to tremble. I no longer laugh or smile as often as I used to and my school grades have been getting lower and lower. I don’t know why this happens but I really want to know what is happening to me, as it is seriously affecting my social life. (From Germany)

I Am Afraid of Myself and What Might Happen in the Future

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I am sorry you are having such difficulty. However, there are several things that are happening that lead me to believe this may just be a transition time for you. First, the fact that you change when your friends are around means that whatever is happening is affected by your surroundings. This is good news because it means you can create situations in which you feel safe.

Secondly, you list your age as 13 and this is often a time of great physical transformation. Give yourself some time to adjust to your independence — and learn more about who you are and about becoming yourself.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I Am Afraid of Myself and What Might Happen in the Future

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Am Afraid of Myself and What Might Happen in the Future. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 21, 2019, from
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