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My husband has depressive disorder, panic disorder, and anorexia. He is quite literally getting on my last nerve. I get angry if he walks into the room. He is seeing a therapist and psychiatrist and is medicated. I know that he has illnesses, but I am feeling less loving as the days go by. He asks so many questions about his weight, he is insecure and constantly asking about if I love him or what has he done for me not to love. Usually, I am watching TV or cooking, or cleaning when these questions start. I haven’t said anything for him to feel this way. I know I should be patient with him, but I am finding it harder and harder to do. He has been off work since June and has a return to work date in February. I really need some help or advice or something. I myself have anxiety, but nothing like he experiences. I have been on xanax before, but not long term. I am just at a loss and feel like I am loosing my mind a little everyday. How can I get past this resentment or anger or whatever it is I am feeling? Please help me!

Anger Toward Husband

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I appreciate the difficulty of living with someone who is depressed and have two recommendations. First, self-care is the most important thing for you. Developing a plan that has your well-being in mind though exercise, good nutrition, developing your friendships — ANYTHING that puts you first and has you taking care of you — needs to become a priority.

Secondly, it may be time to consider couple therapy. If he is unwilling, then some individual therapy for you would be important.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Anger Toward Husband

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Anger Toward Husband. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 23, 2019, from
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