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Could a 36-Year-Old Person Stay Mentally Normal without Sex?

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I would like take your advice and opinion on my new relationship with a friend who is 36 years old. He is not married and never got into a relationship with any other girl. He follows different religion that does not allow sexual relations except after marriage. He seems to me a normal person but I am not sure if this long period without sex would have kept him in normal mental health? or there should be a psychological disorder?

Would it be okay for me to proceed with him? I need your advice. Thank you.

Could a 36-Year-Old Person Stay Mentally Normal without Sex?

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Thank you for thinking about us and asking your question. While there is too little information to comment on his mental health based on a religious decision, I think it is fair to say that people often use religious doctrines to mask unhealthy or undeveloped psychological issues. Under the guise of a religious doctrine, something unhealthy becomes a virtue. While it would not be possible for me to know if that is happening here, I will encourage you to trust yourself to make that assessment. It would be rare that a religious practice or belief could adequately hide other issues. Take it slow and see how integrated his life, behavior and beliefs are with his religion. Then you will know more about who he is. Give yourself some time.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Could a 36-Year-Old Person Stay Mentally Normal without Sex?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Could a 36-Year-Old Person Stay Mentally Normal without Sex?. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 19, 2019, from
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