There might be something wrong with your ex, but your power to affect change in her life is limited. You can and should express your concerns to her. You can suggest that she seek help. You could try speaking to her family and expressing your concerns about her to them and they might be able to intervene. Perhaps her friends and family could attempt an intervention to convince her to seek help.
With any luck, she’ll be open to your suggestions or to the suggestions of others and decide to seek help. If she chooses not to take anyone’s advice, unless she’s a danger to herself or others or unless she is breaking the law, she has the right to live her life any way she chooses. She has a right to do whatever she wants even if it means moving to other countries, having bad relationships, and so forth.
It’s difficult to watch people we care about make bad decisions. We can try to intervene and offer our advice, but ultimately there’s only so much we can do. You can try the aforementioned ideas. Those suggestions might help. Beyond that, there’s nothing else you can do. You can’t force her to seek help. She has to want to seek that help on her own. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle