This is a particularly difficult question to answer because you did not provide any examples of your son’s behavior that you consider sociopathic. Without any examples, I can only provide a general answer.
It is rare for children to show sociopathic tendencies, but it does happen. Since one of your main problems seems to be finding mental health professionals who can help, you might try videotaping his episodes of sociopathic behavior. His attempting to “fool” the professionals in the office would be less of an issue. The videos could provide a more realistic and objective assessment of his behavior. It would help them to help you.
If you would like to write back and include examples of your son’s concerning behavior, I may be able to provide more specific advice. In the meantime, you should continue searching for mental health professionals who can help. You might also try reading books about sociopathy in children. There might also be online support groups that may be of assistance.
Finally, is it possible that you are misperceiving his behavior? You have offered your opinion that he is sociopathic, but you have included no examples of his behavior. Every therapist will want evidence beyond your interpretation. Lay persons are poorly equipped to make a diagnosis. You should work with a therapist so that you can share your daily interactions with your son and gain the insight of the therapist about your sons’ behavior and its meaning. I wish you well. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle