I’m sorry that you are feeling unappreciated and overly criticized by your parents, but please don’t let this make you feel worthless and unloved. Some parents are stricter than others, expecting more from their children and giving harsher punishments, but that does not mean that they don’t love you. It most likely means the opposite.
It is normal to compare ourselves and our situation to our peers, but it usually isn’t helpful. It may be more helpful to speak directly to your parents about how you are feeling. Ask to speak to them when you are not in trouble and no one is upset so that they will be more likely to listen to what you are saying versus think you are trying to get out of a consequence. Do you have an older sibling or another family member, such as an aunt or grandparent, whom you can confide in but who might also be willing to play the mediator when you speak to your parents about your concerns? If not, you could speak to your school counselor or request to see a family therapist.
The teenage years can be a difficult time for many reasons, but it can also be a wonderful time of life. Do your best to focus on your strengths, what is going right in your life, your school work, your friends, and your hobbies. The more you focus on the positives, you will have more ability to cope with the negatives, and in a few short years you will be able to be on your own.
All the best,
Dr. Holly Counts