I am currently together with a 12 year old girl (she will stay anonymous). She moved away recently and we still communicate through texting. Recently she texted me that she thought she was pregnant. She read that if it is positive the urine stays foamy and hers did for about 20 min. (13 days past ovaluation) I feel concerned for her. We have never had sex or even mentioned it. So I am wondering if she cheated on me or if something else happened, or if she is crazy. Thanks for your help.
It can be very upsetting when someone we care deeply about believes she is in a difficult situation. Your girlfriend doesn’t sound like she has enough information about how a pregnancy can be determined. The fact that you have never had sex with her and that she believes she is pregnant should be a clear indication to you that she is too naïve in her understanding of how pregnancy happens, has been sexually active with someone else, or has made the whole thing up. In any case she isn’t someone you will want to invest your time and energy in. She has moved away and clearly you are not her priority.
I would focus on finding relationships with girls who live near you and that you can develop a bond with.
Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.
APA Reference Tomasulo, D. (2018). My 12 Year Old Girlfriend Thinks She Is Pregnant. Psych Central.
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