Your coworker seems to believe that you’re attracted to him. That may not have been your intention, but as evidenced by his response that is his conclusion.
Your offering your opinion about him may have given him the impression that you care about his well-being. Your asking his opinion of you, might have given him the impression that you are interested in what he thinks of you. If you are not attracted to him, then your conversations have become too personal.
If you were my client, I would inquire about your motivation for your interactions with him. Why are you interested in his view of you? If you want a professional opinion about your behavior, it’s best to ask a therapist, who has expert knowledge in human behavior.
If you are not attracted to your coworker, then tell him directly. That will clarify this situation. Going forward, refrain from discussing your personal lives. Only discuss mundane, “safe” topics like the weather or the news. That should significantly reduce the likelihood of any future misunderstandings.
This experience demonstrates the importance of being cognizant about how we interact with others. It’s also an example of how easy it is for others to misinterpret our intentions. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle