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Hi. I lie alot, I can lie about everything and get away with it. I don’t need to lie but I like the feeling of it. I like to see how far I can go. I fantasize alot about killing people. I want to feel them dying, I want to watch all their blood. I want to be infamous, wanted, I want to be a serial killer. I feel diffrent than most people, I don’t really connect to anyone. I usually just spend all my time alone reading, watching documentaries and movies about serial killers and other true crimes. I find it truely fascinating and I want to be like them. I don’t know why I’m like this. I have a good life, nice parents. I’m not depressed anymore I’m just bored. I’m so bored all the time. I enjoy taking risks, stealing stuff I just love the thrill. But I feel like it’s not enough anymore, I want to kill I want to take control.
I know that this isn’t normal and I know what’s right and wrong I just don’t care. I have no clue why I am like this, I haven’t always been like this. It’s getting worse. What’s happening to me?

I Want to Kill

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You’re correct, these are not normal types of feelings. Most people have no desire to kill. In fact, it repulses them. It’s not something that crosses most people’s minds.

You should immediately stop reading and watching anything related to crime. Avoid it altogether. Continuing to indulge your unhealthy interests can only make things worse.

I would recommend counseling. It could help you understand why you are feeling these urges but most importantly, how to eliminate them from your life. Continuing down this road can only lead to trouble.

For reasons that are not entirely clear, the idea of killing appeals to some people. Perhaps, as you suggested, fame and infamy are motivators. It might be that some people are suffering so much in their own lives, that they want to lash out at other people because they don’t know how else to deal with their pain. Whatever the reasons, you should know that murder is never the answer.

If you were to commit murder, your life would be over. You would spend the rest of your days living like an animal in an unbearably small prison cell, eating food barely fit for human consumption, and depending on where you live in the world, awaiting death by execution. It’s an understatement to say that prison is a hellish experience.

I’m glad that you wrote because it gives me a chance to warn you about the dangers of these types of thoughts and fantasies. Mental health treatment can correct whatever is wrong. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

I Want to Kill

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). I Want to Kill. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 26, 2020, from
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