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Self Esteem/Relationship Issue

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When I was 9 years old, I developed a rare disease that has since left me deaf and blind. For a long time, I was in and out of doctors appointments never really having time to make real friends. I have an amazing, loving family. But, for the first time I am making friends. This is so hard because I’ve never really had any. I’m so afraid of being alone not having others truly love me. My friend and other friends say they love me, but I’m having such a hard time believing it. I’m worried that emotionally I may have something wrong with me. How can I know what love from a friend looks feels like? I feel like my best friend isn’t really feeling strongly about me as I want her to. As a friend. I just wonder if you can help me pinpoint the signs of something emotionally wrong? Thank you very much for your time.

Hurting inside

Self Esteem/Relationship Issue

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Thank you for your email. Here is a link to a recent article I’ve written about friendships. The best way to keep in a friendship this to be the best friend you can be. Friendships need to be nurtured in real time, with real gestures. On your side of the equation make sure your friend feels cherished, love, and appreciated.

Your job is to do everything you can to let your friend know he or she is loved — then it is likely this feeling will be returned.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Self Esteem/Relationship Issue

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Self Esteem/Relationship Issue. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 19, 2019, from
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