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I’ve always had a fantasy of having a 3-some with two women, and over the last year or two it has developed into having sex with a mother and her daughter at the same time. The daughter would always be around 18 years old and the mother late 30’s /early 40’s. Recently I met a very attractive 19 year old girl and her mother; they both were very attractive and fitted in with previous fantasies. I now can’t stop imagining them with me. I think it would be something I would act on if I wasn’t married and had the opportunity. I’d just like to know why I may be having these fantasies regarding incest. The mother is always very experienced and the daughter inexperienced.

Thanks in advance. (From England)

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These types of fantasies serve as a source of sexual activation and are quite common. Research shows that men (and women) have sexual ideation several times a day and your fantasy would be included in the range of thoughts men have.

That being said I am glad you recognize that your bond you have in your marriage is an important commitment. If the fantasies bring you to the point where you feel compelled to act on them, I would encourage you to consider if your marriage is viable and not worth jeopardizing. If it is, you may want to consider therapy to learn more about these fantasies and how they might be related to the quality of your marriage.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Male Fantasy

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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