You inquired about whether bad moods are just part of your personality. The answer is no. They are highly treatable. It is not normal to have this strong of an emotional reaction.
Your sadness, anger and jealousy are clues as to what might be wrong. Jealousy stems from a lack of confidence. If someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, they may worry that their partner might leave them for someone better. Thus the constant vigilance and concern about the possibility of your partner leaving.
We all get angry from time to time but frequently feeling this way might indicate unhappiness with some aspect of your life. Often, sadness and anger go hand-in-hand.
These problems are correctable with counseling. If not corrected, you risk losing your relationship. If you want to keep your relationship, then you must improve your mindset. Counseling is the most efficient way to make a positive change. It would also show that you are open and willing to change, and willing to do whatever it takes to improve the quality of your life and your relationship. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle