From the U.S.: I can’t let go of my wife’s past sexual encounters. Not only can’t I let it go, I get consumed and angry about it and I lash out at her trying to make her feel bad about what she has done. It feels like she did these things as a personal attack towards me and I wasn’t even around at the time and now it has caused us to get a divorce and all I want is my wife backI Can’t Let Go of My Wife’s Past
I Can’t Let Go of My Wife’s Past
What you didn’t mention is whether you already knew of her past before you married and went ahead anyway. If so, you must have decided that there were many things about her that outweighed your reservations. If that’s the case, you have been angry at yourself, not at her. It was unfair to turn that anger on her. As you pointed out, her past had nothing to do with you.
Not having met your wife, or you, I have no idea whether you can recover the marriage. Regardless, it’s not a good idea to go through the rest of your life carrying anger and regrets. If you haven’t already contacted a therapist, I hope you will. If you could have come to terms with this sad end to your marriage on your own, you would have done so already.
I wish you well.