Middle school seems to traumatize so many kids. It isn’t the school, of course. It’s the dynamics among all those teens trying to figure out who they are while their bodies are sending out a tide of new hormones to adjust to. Middle school ends up being a stew of emotional upheaval.
Like most people your age, you want to have a solid group of friends to hang with. Like many people your age, you are so concerned about how your performance (whether as a friend or doing an assignment) will measure up as compared to others’ that you end up immobilized. You do have my sympathy. I just want you to understand that you aren’t at all alone in your feelings of confusion and discouragement.
The best way out of this is to stop being concerned about what others think. Instead of worrying about making friends, focus on finding things you really love to do. Identify an organization, a club, a sport, or an activity that truly interests you. Then jump in. Do it to the best of your ability. Focus on the tasks, not on whether you are winning friends. People who love the same things tend to have things in common. Chances are that your and the people you meet who are doing the same activity will be interested in each other.
When you are working with someone else, keep the conversation light. Ask questions about the other person’s interests. People like people who show an interest in them. By focusing on the activity and being a good listener, you will give yourself and the others the chance to develop relationships naturally.
I wish you well.