Thank you for your email. I think you can get closure without having to talk to him directly again. The method is through expressive writing. I would write him a letter that is complete with all your thoughts, feelings and reactions. Don’t hold anything back. Expressive writing is one way to organize, express, and integrate our feelings when we need closure. It is safe — when you write the letter I would focus on both what you received in the relationship that was good, and what your disappointments were that diminished it and ultimately ended it. This will help you find more of what you want and less of what you don’t in your future relationships.
Wishing you patience and peace,
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