Sometimes focusing on the “hunt” becomes so important that the huntress (or hunter) sends off a vibe that makes people back away. I don’t know if that is the case with you, but it is something to consider.
Finding someone to love who will cherish you is an important and rich part of life. I understand it is discouraging when it just isn’t happening. I don’t want you to give up your standards. I don’t want you to give up. I do think you may need to change your strategy.
Instead of working so hard to find someone, find something to do that puts you in a circle of people who share your interests and passions. Focus on the activity instead of on whether someone there is a potential partner. Be an active participant in the group and show your best self. As you work together, you will naturally get to know other people and they will get to know you. Maybe one of those people will emerge as a romantic interest. Or maybe someone there will have a friend they will want you to meet.
Please be patient. Finding the right person is worth the wait.
I wish you well.