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Why Am I So Mean?

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A lot of people make fun of me and bully me, so in order to fit in I act cocky and conceded *that is what everyone I know is like* but the problem is I don’t know when to stop. I am rude and mean to everyone and everyone hates me. plz help.

Why Am I So Mean?

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Thank you for your letter. Even when you are acting cocky the bullies are still controlling you. The real work for you is to figure out who you are — and find people who care about you for being you. Every school in your state has a bullying program. I would talk to the counselor responsible for the program in your school and ask for help. Trying to be someone you’re not just to avoid or cope with the bullies gives them more power than they deserve.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Why Am I So Mean?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Why Am I So Mean?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 24, 2019, from
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