I’m a lesbian and have been with my gf for quite a while now. Recently her dad kicked her out of the house and forced her to live with her grandmother. She doesn’t have her phone any more and is no longer aloud to come to school. Her parents have quite a huge problem with me even though I’ve been nothing but nice to them. Currently I have no clue where my girlfriend is, and I’m terrified that this situation is going to affect our relationship. I’m very worried. She has some serious mental health issues and it terrifies me that she might do something stupid to herself over this. I just don’t know how to react. I’m scared. (From Canada)
I’m sorry you’re so consumed by your girlfriend’s absence. You state your ages as 15 — and I am imagining that your girlfriend is nearly the same age. I would highly recommend you talk to your high school’s guidance counselor about her. If she is being kept from school this is important for them to know about. Even if she doesn’t go to the same school, a counselor may have some ideas about how to follow up.
Love and concern for her is admirable, and you need some trusted adults to help you. The school counselors a good place to start.
Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.
APA Reference Tomasulo, D. (2018). My Girlfriend’s Parents Are Crazy. Psych Central.
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