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Was I Wrong?

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My daughter (9 yr old) was out playing with her friends a block away from our house. It turned 6.30 pm. I went to get her but her friends said she wasn’t with them. I looked for her in the neighborhood for another 30 mins and couldn’t find her. It was getting dark so I panicked and called the police. In the meantime my husband was also looking for her. He found her and brought her back home. Now he is so mad at me for calling the police. I don’t think I did anything wrong. I don’t understand his mindset. What if he hadn’t found her when he did? Like why is he making me feel like I did something bad by calling the police? Was I wrong to call them?

Was I Wrong?

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Any parent would panic in that situation — but I think the larger issue here is the communication process and expectations from each other. Use the experience as an opportunity to discuss what could have been done differently. This type of discussion is essential — otherwise you can expect a repeating problem. Also take to time to savor the fact your daughter was okay and to have gratitude.

Was I Wrong?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Was I Wrong?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 24, 2019, from
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