I’m sorry that you are having trouble in your marriage. There can be several factors contributing to your husband’s lack of sexual drive (libido). Psychotropic medication often decreases libido, so that is a legitimate complaint. Having children and being tired is also a common complaint, especially considering he is older than you. He should let his doctor know that he is struggling with the issue because sometimes adjustments can be made.
However, I feel that his interest in teen porn is a separate issue and one that I find very concerning. Studies have shown that spending a great deal of time viewing things of a sexual nature online can negatively affect real intimacy with a partner, among other things. I would suggest that you seek marital therapy right away. In particular, I would seek a therapist who specializes in sexual dysfunctions as well as couple’s counseling. I hope things get better for you soon.
All the best,
Dr. Holly Counts