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Total Lack of Interest in Sex

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My partner doesn’t have sex. Not with me, himself, or anyone else. He says he finds it disgusting and he says there is nothing in his past that may have caused this. I have never heard of such a thing and I take it personally. The relationship is in real trouble and this is a major reason. Is there such a thing as an asexual human? For all the information absurd and valuable, I can find no information about this. (age 60, from US)

Total Lack of Interest in Sex

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Yes there are asexual people. It may be uncommon but it is a legitimate thing. I’m surprised that you haven’t been able to find anything about it. Here’s just one link to get you started:

However, if one person still wants sexual intimacy and the other does not, it can obviously create problems for the relationship. I would suggest seeing a couple’s therapist – and you might specifically seek one with a specialty in sex therapy issues.

All the best,

Dr. Holly Counts

Total Lack of Interest in Sex

Holly Counts, Psy.D.

Dr. Holly Counts is a licensed Clinical Psychologist. She utilizes a mind, body and spirit approach to healing. Dr. Counts received her Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Wright State University and her Masters and Doctoral degrees in Clinical Psychology from Nova Southeastern University. Dr. Counts has worked in a variety of settings and has specialized in trauma and abuse, relationship issues, health psychology, women’s issues, adolescence, GLBT, life transitions and grief counseling. She has specialty training in guided imagery, EMDR, EFT, hypnosis and using intuition to heal. Her current passion involves integrating holistic and alternative approaches to health and healing with psychology.

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Counts, H. (2018). Total Lack of Interest in Sex. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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