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I Can’t Talk to Others Because I Talk to Myself

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Ever since I was young I talked to myself. But recently it’s been taking a turn for the worse. I can no longer communicate with the people around me. In my class, with my friends and even with my family. When I’m alone or I’m not interested in a conversation I’ll simply begin talking to myself. I’ve come up with other people in my head. A new group of friends, a romantic relationship, the only scary thing is that I’ve even thought of doing violent acts to those people and the people around me. When I try to talk to the people around me I just freeze up or I talk in my own humor which no one seems to get. I haven’t been able to make friends and my family is concerned I may have psychological issues. I don’t know how to stop though. I want to be able to talk with people an be friendly but every time I try I just feel like they don’t get me so I resort back to the people in my head. Am I a schizophrenic? Or am I crazy? I don’t know how to deal with it and if this continues I’m afraid it may get worse. I’m terrified of telling my mother this an my friends all called me a lunatic when I tried to explain it to them so I don’t know where else to go…? (From Canada)

I Can’t Talk to Others Because I Talk to Myself

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The fact that you noticed the trend of less socialization with others — and living more in your imaginary life — is important. The part of you that realizes this is the part that has that concern. Honor this unease. Since you are still in high school I recommend talking to your school guidance counselor. It would be important to talk to this trusted adult about this experience. The fact this is a concern to you is enough. I wouldn’t worry about the diagnosis — or labeling yourself as “crazy.” I would simply respect the fact that it makes you feel uncomfortable, and talk to someone who could help you sort through.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I Can’t Talk to Others Because I Talk to Myself

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Can’t Talk to Others Because I Talk to Myself. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 2, 2020, from
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