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My daughter has recently been having anxiety issues but only at school. She won’t walk down corridors etc without panicking and cries in the toilets. She has severe anxiety surrounding one teacher with no real reason. I have recently discovered she has a bit of a crush on another girl and is having a lot of conversations with her online. The girl is at the school but in the year above. Can anyone help to explain this, could she possibly projecting confusion about her sexuality onto this teacher? I asked her how she felt at school and she mentioned a fear of being judged, there is none of this to my knowledge outside of the school environment. (From the UK)

Sexual Identity and Anxiety

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It’s too hard to know from your description what might be upsetting your daughter. Her age, prior background, and outside circumstances would change the answer.

However, her behavior seems upsetting enough that you may want to bring her to a child psychologist or psychiatrist for an evaluation. I recommend finding somebody who specializes in working with children your daughter’s age. Here she will be likely to ask the right questions and give you feedback about the next best thing to do.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Sexual Identity and Anxiety

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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