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I dress as a woman and have for 30 plus yrs. The drive to do so is constant. I love the feel and the look. I hate this just want to be and go from there. Help. Find myself changing when I get home, and sleeping in a bra with breasts and panties at night. Doesn’t turn me on anymore, just feels like normal.

I Dress as a Woman

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at Psych Central. I understand that you have found cross-dressing to be a helpful way to reduce your anxiety, but now it isn’t working for you the way used to. When we do something that doesn’t feel right– but do it anyway, the compulsion can be a powerful struggle.

Finding a good therapist and beginning individual work would be the best way to start dealing with it. This takes courage, and talking about it here is a good first step. Now it is time to bring this into therapy.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I Dress as a Woman

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Dress as a Woman. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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