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Difficult to Trust Him

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We haven’t been in a relationship for that long, around 2-3 months, however I felt like he has broken my trust. For example messaging other girls complimenting them on their appearance amongst other things. I’m just scared that if we do give our passwords to each other it would make our relationship toxic and he would betray me even more. I don’t know what the right thing to do is. Hearing from you would help me a lot.

Difficult to Trust Him

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Thanks for your letter. This is the very beginning of your relationship and I would encourage you to see it as exploratory — not set in stone. Talk to him and explain what it is you need, and what is a deal-breaker. The longer you go having this level of mistrust — the more difficult it will be to repair it. Speak up about your needs, and see how it goes.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Difficult to Trust Him

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Difficult to Trust Him. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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