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How to Tell if Male Coworker Likes Me

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I like a younger coworker. (4 year difference) I’ve known of him for almost two years but he officially introduced himself to me at the office holiday party just last year. We hit it off and we have a lot in common. Sometimes he stops by my desk and we have long conversations. We’ve brought in food for each other and he did invite me on lunch date once. We get along so well. Then sometimes he completely ignores me and he will go weeks without saying hello. I’m confused by the mixed signals. I almost positive that he likes me but then I’m not sure if does until he actually says so. Should I ask him or just leave it alone? Is there a chance that he does like me or is he just being friendly?

How to Tell if Male Coworker Likes Me

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Thank you for your email. I think it’s worth it to talk to him about his availability. He may be dating someone and may not want to complicate things. He may be uncertain as to whether or not you like him. But in any case it is worth it to find out. Test this out by saying you are going somewhere and would you like him to join you. This could be lunch, a concert, a walk — anything where you state you are going — and he can join you. Then you can find out about his availability and to let him know more directly about your interest. If he wants to be with you he will find a way to go or offer an alternative. If he doesn’t — then you go to the event as you planned.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

How to Tell if Male Coworker Likes Me

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). How to Tell if Male Coworker Likes Me. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 23, 2019, from
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