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Tired of Being Insulted

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Hi. I wanted to ask a question about how to deal with a situation that seems to be ongoing or at least it seems like it is (possible I might be paranoid too). I recently have been hearing people [strangers] around me insult my appearance, specifically my body image. I am not unhealthy, but I am not extremely fit either. Many times it seems people have been calling me ugly behind my back, or even yelling at me across the street, calling me that. I try to not let this get to me, but it is becoming so frequent that it has been putting me in a “bluesy” almost depressive mood and I do not know what to do. I have to started to feel hopeless and my routine is going out of whack. I know I should love myself and in some ways I do, but I can only stay strong for so long before all I hear in my own head is that. I do not understand why people have to be so cruel, especially at my age. Can you give me some advice on how to dig myself out of this rut? I would greatly appreciate it. (age 21, from US)

Tired of Being Insulted

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Thanks for writing in with this interesting question. How you should respond depends on whether these comments you are hearing are real or imagined.  Although there certainly are rude people in the world, I find it unusual that you are hearing these comments as often as you describe and they are always about your body image. I’d suggest that you do a test by having someone you trust, such as a close friend or family member, walk with you as often as possible and see if they also hear the comments.

Auditory hallucinations can be linked to various things and diagnoses, both medical and psychological. I think it would be a good idea to schedule both a physical and psychiatric evaluation. Be sure to be completely honest about yourself such as recent medication changes, drug and alcohol use, sleep problems, and food intake so they can help you pinpoint the problem. I hope this resolves for you soon.

All the best,

Dr. Holly Counts

Tired of Being Insulted

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Dr. Holly Counts is a licensed Clinical Psychologist. She utilizes a mind, body and spirit approach to healing. Dr. Counts received her Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Wright State University and her Masters and Doctoral degrees in Clinical Psychology from Nova Southeastern University. Dr. Counts has worked in a variety of settings and has specialized in trauma and abuse, relationship issues, health psychology, women’s issues, adolescence, GLBT, life transitions and grief counseling. She has specialty training in guided imagery, EMDR, EFT, hypnosis and using intuition to heal. Her current passion involves integrating holistic and alternative approaches to health and healing with psychology.

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Counts, H. (2018). Tired of Being Insulted. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 5, 2020, from
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