Your friend sounds like he is confused about his sexuality, along with his life’s direction. I wouldn’t place too much stock in making plans that include intimate partnership with him. Friendship, perhaps, but he doesn’t sound like he is focused on being together with you.
Rather than using him as a North Star in your life it may be better to think more about what is important to you, and what kind of relationship you need in your life. Individual counseling can help with this.