Your letter is very powerful to read. Thank you for sending it to us. It would be hard to find an interaction with him that can change his mind and behavior. It sounds like something he will have to work on on its own. It works like this: If you have to do something to get him to tell you he loves you, then if feels like he is only doing it because of what you’ve done. It won’t feel genuine. Since you have already had a heart-to-heart talk the next thing is to do is to unhook from this need from him. Your work is to stay in the relationship while cultivating less dependency, and more individuation. When we need too much from another person it can limit our own growth. As you unhook more from this need it may give him a chance to sort this through on his own. In doing this, if you don’t feel better within three months, I recommend some couple’s counseling around the issue.