I’m writing on behalf of myself and my three sisters in law;
Our 56 year old MIL has been diagnosed with anxiety in the past, and wants constant attention from everyone in her family, and behaves very disruptively to get it. According to her parents, siblings, husband and sons, this has been a continual issue since childhood. Most commonly, she picks fights or feigns illness or helplessness, such as:
– claiming to be legally blind and insisting that she’d need to be driven and accompanied everywhere (her vision returned a few weeks later)
– can barely eat anything, other than favorite foods, possibly from stomach cancer that was supposedly diagnosed at a walk-in clinic
– picking fights with, or claiming insult from someone who is getting more attention than herself , ie: I was horribly rude to her and she needed an apology immediately on my wedding day, when I was in labour, and when I was going to visit my dying grandfather.
– Her daughter-in-law, who had cancer, doesn’t call often enough
– Her brothers widow gave her nasty looks at the funeral and she wanted us all to leave immediately
Neither ignoring her behavior, or giving her her more positive attention, seems to make much difference. If you call every day, twice a day would be better.
Over the past 3 years all four of her sons have moved away (either to the next province or across country) and her behavior as only escalated. Recently, she claimed to be pregnant, despite a hysterectomy 15 years ago, and was furious with how little attention she received. The pregnancy, and how it would effect the family, was all she would talk about for weeks. Her husband and sisters say she used to claim to be pregnant several times a year. He and their sons are used to her behavior and say she’s just bored. But we are concerned both with the increase in her behavior, her dedication to this pregnancy claim, and her reaction to the lack of attention she received for it.
We’re not sure where to go from here, or how best to deal with this situation with her or our husbands. (From Canada)