There are many dynamics that make your situation particularly challenging including your depression, your boyfriend’s bipolar disorder, your new adoption, your discovering his attempt at infidelity, and an overall lack of social support. Any one of those issues, by itself, is a major life challenge and you are attempting to deal with them all simultaneously. Your high levels of stress are most likely impacting the relationship.
Counseling could be highly beneficial to you and your boyfriend. It could provide the necessary guidance for handling these issues. Couples counseling could help you understand the dynamics of your relationship and determine how you both may be contributing to its problems. Your boyfriend’s attempted infidelity needs to be addressed immediately and couples counseling could help with this.
Ask your primary care doctor for a referral. You could also try websites like Psychology Today, or click on the “find help” tab at the top of this page to locate a counselor in your community. The sooner you get help, the better your chances of effectively addressing these issues and mending your relationship. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle