I don’t think you are describing a problem that would be “diagnosable” in the medical or psychological sense. I think you are describing a typical situation that occurs with new roommates. You also stated that this is your first year of college. Adjusting to new situations like this can be very difficult and communication issues are quite common. Most of us have lived with our families our entire lives and it takes a great deal of effort to understand the wishes and habits of folks in a new living situation, and because you live together, it’s hard to escape.
Although it can sometimes be helpful to ask others for advice, it is usually best to go to the source. Rather than asking other friends who is right or wrong, or allowing yourself to imagine the “worst case scenario,” just speak openly and honestly to your roommates on a regular basis. I would suggest coming up with a mutually agreeable time to have a weekly house meeting so that everyone can touch base about how things are going. Also, try to always lead with positives rather than a negatives. Hope things improve soon.
All the best,
Dr. Holly Counts